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  • Gives you more say about what happens. In court a judge will make the decisions. With mediation you and the other party make the decisions.
  • It’s less stressful, with less conflict between you and your partner. If you have children it is less upsetting for them. It can help find ways for everyone involved to get on better in the future.
  • It improves communication and helps you sort out your future.
  • It’s flexible and agreements can be changed when circumstances change.
  • It’s easier on your children when parents co-operate and helps them continue important family relationships.
  • It’s quicker, cheaper and provides a better way to sort out disagreements than long drawn-out court battles – helping you to get on with the rest of your life as quickly as possible.

Contact MediationMK as soon as you and your partner have decided to split up and need help sorting out arrangements – the sooner the better, before the issues become big problems. You don’t need to see a solicitor first.

Even if you have been separated for a while, or if your case has already gone to court, mediation can help to resolve any dispute you may have.

The first step is to attend a meeting with us so you can find out more about mediation and if it’s right for you. This is called a Mediation Information Assessment Meeting (MIAM). You can go with your partner, or you can see the mediator separately if you prefer.

Have you reached a ‘brick wall’ as separated parents? We can help you navigate through….Call our office for further information.

Separation affects children in many ways. Take a look at the following video to see the views of some young people

Our team at MediationMK take our client feedback seriously. We strive to provide client led services in a tailored and holistic way in answer to our feedback received. This means that we work from the root up – if a plant has damaged roots, it is unlikely that it will thrive.

We hold regular focus groups in answer to our direct client voices and welcome all those who are experiencing difficulties in respect of relationship breakdown, including children and young people. These are held in the form of meetings where there is the provision of a safe space with refreshments for you to discuss any issues. Experts and professionals from our partner agencies will be in attendance to offer support and advice.

We hold separate groups for children and young people and adults/carers, but are normally held on the same day.

To register for our next group please email louise@mediationmk.org.uk. You will be provided with an option sheet for you to provide an idea of your current situation.

We look forward to hearing from you.

What is Family Mediation?

If you are separating or divorcing, family mediation can help you sort out disputes – without involving big legal fees or going through court.

Mediation is not about trying to get you back together. It’s about helping you to make arrangements after you’ve decided to separate.

It can also help when you’ve already separated and need to sort something out.

You and your partner (or ex-partner) explain your concerns and views to each other in the presence of a family mediator who helps you both to reach an agreement.

Legal aid may be available to pay for mediation.

What do Family Mediators do?

Family mediators are trained to work with people whose relationships have broken down. They come from professional backgrounds, such as law and healthcare.

Mediators will find solutions that both of you can agree on. A mediator will ask you questions to understand your situation and, unlike going to court, you stay in control. No-one can make you do anything against your wishes. Discussions are confidential.

Children have the right to a relationship with both parents (as long as it is safe) and their needs are most important. Some mediators are trained to include children in discussions but only if both you, your partner and the child agree.

What happens if I go to family mediation?

If you agree to try mediation, you will need to attend mediation sessions (usually 1-2 hours each). The length and number of sessions will depend on your situation.

When an agreement is reached, the mediator will write it down in a ‘Memorandum of Understanding’ so that everyone is clear about what has been decided.

You can ask the court to make the agreement legally binding if both you and your partner agree.

This is sometimes useful if arrangements are meant to run over a period of time, such as child maintenance payments, or when people are concerned that their (ex-) partner will not stick to the agreement.

Some people going through mediation find it helpful to have legal support to advise them. Legal aid may be available for this.

What if things don’t go as planned afterwards?

If the situation changes and the arrangements aren’t working, you can go back to the mediator. If needed, you can agree to change the Memorandum of Understanding.

What if I want to go to court?

You will still need to show the court that :

  • You have been to a MIAM to find out about mediation, or
  • you are exempt from having to do this, for example because violence or abuse is involved (see below).

If you have already seen a solicitor, they should explain all of this to you.

What are the benefits?

  • gives you more say about what happens. In court a judge will make the decisions. With mediation you and the other party make the decisions.
  • is less stressful , with less conflict between you and your partner. If you have children it is less upsetting for them. It can help find ways for everyone involved to get on better in the future.
  • improves communication and helps you sort out your future.
  • is flexible and agreements can be changed when circumstances change.
  • is easier on your children when parents co- operate and helps them continue important family relationships.
  • is quicker, cheaper and provides a better way to sort out disagreements than long drawn-out court battles – helping you to get on with the rest of your life as quickly as possible.

When should I try family mediation?

Contact MediationMK as soon as you and your partner have decided to split up and need help sorting out arrangements – the sooner the better, before the issues become big problems. You don’t need to see a solicitor first.

Even if you have been separated for a while or if your case has already gone to court, mediation can help to resolve any dispute you may have.

The first step is to attend a meeting with the mediator so you can find out more about mediation and if it’s right for you. This is called a Mediation Information Assessment Meeting (MIAM) . You can go with your partner, or you can see the mediator separately if you prefer.

Is family mediation right for everyone?

No. The ‘MIAM’ is for discussing whether mediation will work for you both. If mediation isn’t right there may be other options that will still avoid you having to go to court, for example collaborative law or solicitor negotiation. Visit www.sortingoutseparation.org.uk for more information.

What if domestic violence or child abuse is involved?

Cases involving domestic violence or child abuse are not usually right for mediation and you will not need to go to a MIAM. If you have evidence of domestic violence or child abuse you may qualify for legal aid to pay for a solicitor to help you bring your case to court.

How much will mediation cost?

Please visit our costs page.

Find out more

Legal Aid:

See if you are eligible for financial help. Use the online Legal Aid Checker at www.gov.uk/check-legal-aid

Alternatively, call the Civil Legal Advice service on 0845 345 4 345, Monday to Friday, 9.00am to 8.00pm, Saturday 9.00am to 12.30pm. Calls cost 4p per minute from a BT landline, mobiles usually cost more.

Privacy and Confidentiality

The privacy of your personal details, whether stored on file or computer, is assured. MediationMK is registered under the Data Protection Act and you are, therefore, entitled to request a copy of any information kept about you in our records. The Legal Aid Agency may require access to our records in order to ensure standards are maintained. Discussions in mediation are treated in confidence.

No information is passed to anyone outside MediationMK without your permission. However, full and frank disclosure of all relevant information between a mediating couple is essential if mediation is to be successful. If allegations of harm to a child are made, the mediator has an obligation to contact the relevant authorities.

Compliments and Complaints

We welcome constructive comments about our service and we also regularly seek the views of users. A copy of our complaints procedure is available on request.

Discussions in mediation are treated in confidence. No information is passed to anyone outside MediationMK without your permission.

Concerns about safety

Please tell us if you are concerned about your own safety, or the safety of a child, or have experienced violence or intimidation. We can make arrangements for separate arrival and departure times, and separate waiting areas, if required.

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