mediation mk for separating couples
For couples and families

Listening to Young People

Who is the service for?

Young people aged 6 and upwards whose parents are separating or divorcing.

Why listen to young people?

When young people have information and the opportunity to express their point of view, they are better able to deal with the effects of their parents' divorce or separation. It can be helpful if this discussion is with someone outside the family, who can listen objectively to what is being said and feed this back to the parents.

When do we involve young people in mediation?

When both parents and the mediator have held a Listening to Young People preparation session and have agreed that involving the children would be beneficial to them and help the parents with the plans that they are making. Parents are normally seen together for the assessment and preparation sessions and for any subsequent feedback meeting, but can be seen separately if required.

How much does it cost?

Parents will be assessed to see if they are eligible for Legal Aid. For those entitled to Legal Aid, there will be no charge, otherwise there is a fixed fee payable for each parent per session. This is £70 plus VAT per person for the initial session and £70 plus VAT per person for the feedback meeting. There is no charge for the children's sessions.

When young people have information and the opportunity to express their point of view, they are better able to deal with the effects of their parents' divorce or separation.

What happens at the meeting?

Parents will be assessed to see if they are eligible for Legal Aid. For those entitled to Legal Aid, there will be no charge, otherwise there is a fixed fee

  • The young people are invited on their own or with their brothers and sisters for a discussion with a mediator, which may last an hour.
  • The young people will not be given advice or counselling at this session.
  • The mediators cannot pass on information that the parents have not already discussed with their children. The young people will decide with the mediator what they want to pass on to their parents and how.
  • Meetings are confidential unless we are seriously concerned about the risk of harm to anyone, particularly a child.
What happens next?

As soon as possible after this meeting the mediator and parents will meet to discuss the outcome. The young person(s) may wish to be present at this meeting.